How to Write a Thank-You Note After Being a Houseguest

by Culture & Society Editor

Sincerity and a personal touch are the keys to a good thank-you note.

Write your note within a week after your visit - no excuses.

Use your own engraved stationery, a thank-you card or something informal, instead of your regular professional letterhead, for that all-important personal touch.

Write your note by hand. Remember, unless the visit really was a networking situation, the intimacy of a house visit can only be communicated via a handwritten note.

Reminisce. Sure, it was only a week ago, but spell out what was truly special: picking peas in the garden, that squally boat trip, charades....

Thank your hosts for any extra effort on their part. Did they make your special vegan diet, oust their twins from the bedroom, quarantine the dog?

Consider extending a reciprocating offer to your hosts, such as inviting them to your home for a weekend.


  • A handwritten note is the only acceptable way to truly thank someone.
  • Keep in mind that while a telephone call is easy, a note is something they can keep, especially if you include a few "Wasn't that fun?" photos.
  • Think about sending flowers or a potted plant if you didn't arrive armed with a gift for your hosts.

Items you will need

  • Etiquette Books
  • Postage Stamps
  • Stationery
  • Writing Pens

Photo Credits

  • accepting the inviye image by Bettina Baumgartner from